Gabriella Kovalenko: We should all look for the beauty in solitude
Published 9:45 am, Thursday, June 2, 2016
A hundred years ago, a thousand years ago, and maybe even 10 years ago, solitude had a different meaning.
Spending time alone, momentarily enjoying silence and internal harmony, is a thing of life people have forgotten.
To enjoy solitude does not mean to be alone or socially separate; solitude does not equal loneliness.
Fewer people in today's world enjoy escaping their daily lives for the sacred moments of being with themselves.
The concept of solitude has been beaten down by the endless disruptions of our lives.
We, as a populace, find time for fun and social engagement, while forgetting about spending time with our own identities — thinking, dreaming or simply taking a break from our busy lives to be ourselves.
After absorbing the influences of others, what is left of the thoughts and feelings unique to only us?
Solitude is no more than the state of being alone, but if I could add another layer to this definition, I would say without disturbance.
When people are alone with a phone in their grasp, it's hard to say they are in solitude.
Sure, it is easier to log on to Facebook than to find something of interest, and the almost 1.7 billion users would probably agree that the network is somewhat of a remedy to loneliness, but why is it such an addiction?
With social networks increasing “social connections,” people feel more social, but isn’t a media page just a gallery of the persona you want people to perceive you as?
I wish more people would appreciate the ideas, support and knowledge shared online, over the “likes” and “friends” they rave about.
Solitude can be that period of recovery that helps us recollect ourselves and prepare for the future.
But why should we wait for the extremes when solitude is always an option?
Just a few minutes every day is enough to gain self-awareness and feel more adept at managing our emotions.
Perhaps people do not realize the power of solitude until they find out when they need it.
Loneliness and solitude are mistakably taken as the same thing; meanwhile, loneliness is degrading to our nature and solitude is a blissful state we are all meant to be in.
We are born and we die in solitude, and we can choose to experience it at our liking.
There is nothing but pleasure in taking time to think about one’s self-growth, goals and passions. Without finding at least the occasional opportunity for solitude, we forget where we are headed because we are blind to our own paths.
Clearly, some people are born with a more solitary nature than others.
People who value solitude may have difficulty finding friends because they are sensitive to boisterous surroundings, and they may avoid certain situations.
Solitary people are not as common, but they are those who bring a special beauty to the world — writers, artists, musicians.
Solitude opens a channel for deeper thinking, creativity and expression, which many of us forget about.
Even if you are bothered by being alone, I think accepting solitude is an important skill we should acquire. Being alone and at peace invokes a feeling of self-renewal and calmness that can help us regain perspective and joy.
Solitude is a connection between the mind, body, and soul allowing us to regain our senses and disconnect from the problems in our lives.
There is nothing extraordinary about being in this state — enjoying a book or observing nature are ways.
So really, solitude means ignoring material problems and connecting your soul to the world.